11 Tips For Making A Guy Want To Talk To You

So you’ve spotted this charming guy soaking up the sun in the neighborhood park or rushing for a meeting at work. He’s easy on the eyes and seems like a nice guy. 

Despite those silent exchanges while walking your dog or those quick, shy glances in your office building, you’ve never quite mustered up the courage to say “Hi!”

You may wonder why Mr. Handsome hasn’t approached you yet. Has he even noticed you? Maybe he’s shy, or perhaps he’s unsure if you’re available. 

Or maybe he’s oblivious and doesn’t realize you’re hoping for a chat.

Ever wondered how some ladies have this effortless magnetism? They just naturally seem to pull people towards them. Especially that certain someone they’ve had their eyes on. 

A recent study in the “Journal of Personal Relationships” found that open body language, smiles, and direct eye contact significantly increase the likelihood of a man approaching a woman. 

There are a few ways you can send powerful messages to him and put yourself on his radar! 

In this article, I will share with you 11 outstanding techniques to make sure he not only notices you but is drawn to strike up a conversation! 

These aren’t your run-of-the-mill tips. You’ll be left thinking, “Why didn’t I think of that?!” So be sure to watch from start to finish because you don’t want to miss out on any of this.

See also: 7 Things to Talk About With a Man on First Date

1. Smile a LOT

Guys are generally terrified about approaching someone new. If you have a serious or upset look on your face, it’s even tougher for them. 

A simple smile can make you seem approachable and friendly. When you smile, you let them know it’s okay to come over and talk. It’s a small thing that can make a big difference.

Having a big smile actually  makes you look more attractive to others, according to a study in Cognition and Emotion.

If you’re the daring type, adding a subtle wave to your smile can also be highly effective!

2. The Power of Eye Contact 

A study from Bucknell University found that most men won’t approach a woman unless she makes eye contact first.

Eye contact is a very strong signal. If you want a guy to come over and talk, looking at him is like giving a green light. Men often look for these signals to know it’s okay to approach. 

It doesn’t take much. Regardless of where you are, a short glance and a smile sends the message, “I’m open to chatting.” It’s a simple way to show you’re interested.

3. Try a Wink

It might sound old-school, but a wink can be a fun surprise! It can quickly grab a guy’s attention and show him you’re playful. 

Sure, some might think winking is a bit cheesy, but done right, it’s a bold move that can make him curious about you. 

Plus, it’s unexpected, and being unpredictable can be a good thing. Next time you catch his eye, throw in a cheeky wink and see where it leads!

4. Stay open and approachable

Your body language says a lot. If you cross your arms or turn away from people, it looks like you don’t want to talk. 

If you’re deep in chat with someone else, or have things that show you’re taken (like a wedding ring), a guy will think twice.

To appear more open, keep your arms relaxed and try to face the crowd, even when talking to friends. Look around now and then and give those little signals to the guy you might want to chat with. 

And one more thing: spending too much time on your phone can send the wrong message. If you’re always texting, it looks like you’re too busy for a conversation. Put your phone down as often as possible to send a signal that you’re open for talking.

5. The power of first impressions

When a guy first spots you, your look is the initial thing he notices. It’s that initial glance that makes him approach. 

This doesn’t mean you need to dress up all the time, just wear outfits that make you feel confident and emphasize your assets. 

You don’t need a lot of makeup either; just enough to highlight your natural beauty. 

That being said, consider putting on red lipstick! A study showed that women in bars with red lipstick get approached by guys more often, and wait less for guys to come talk to them!

Research also shows men find women more physically appealing and sexually enticing when they wear a red outfit!

6. Go out in small groups

It can be incredibly intimidating for a guy to have to approach a big group of women. He feels like he needs to impress all of you – and that he risks being rejected by all of you too! 

Also, the larger your group is, the more difficult it becomes for him to catch you when you’re not caught up in a conversation.

If you’re with a guy, on the other hand, others may think you’re dating. 

If you’re with just one or two girl friends, it’s a lot easier for a guy to come up and chat without feeling too pressured.

7. Keep your friends in check 

Friends can be protective, which is great. But sometimes, they might step in when you’re just about to have a nice chat with a guy. 

If you’re interested in starting a conversation with a guy, make sure you let your friends know! They can hang out with each other or chat with other people. 

It’s cool that friends look out for each other, but they should also let you have your moments. You don’t want a good chat to end because a friend jumps in too soon.

8. Show you’re having a blast

When you’re out, let your fun side shine. Even if the guy is having a good time, seeing you enjoy yourself even more can make him curious and want to join in on the fun. A lively spirit can be infectious and draw him to you.

Try to forget about your worries and negative thoughts. Guys can tell if you’re not having fun, even from a distance. 

9. Be comfortable with your attraction: 

It’s okay if a guy is physically attracted to you. If he talks to you, it probably means he likes you. Being okay with this doesn’t mean anything bad about you. 

If he gives a compliment, just say “thanks.” with a smile. If you like him too, show it a bit. 

Obviously, you decide what you’re comfortable with. If something feels too fast, just tell him. Be clear about it and go at your own speed.

10. Drop something on purpose

Dropping something near him is a time-proven approach to start a conversation. An easy way to break the ice without too much pressure.

For example, you’re at a coffee shop and the guy you’ve noticed is nearby. You have a book or a hat with you. As you walk by him, “accidentally” drop your item near him. 

If he picks it up for you, you can say, “Thanks! I’m always dropping stuff.” If he’s up for talking, he might share a story of his own about losing or dropping things.

11. Make the first move

Sometimes, it can be a good move to start the chat yourself. Many guys appreciate when a girl takes the initiative. 

Just kick things off with a casual question. It doesn’t have to be deep! for example:

“Do you happen to know if there’s good coffee here?”

“I can’t decide which sandwich to get; any recommendations?”

“Is that book you’re reading any good?”

These might sound basic, but they’re just openers. They give the guy the chance to engage with you. If he’s interested, he’ll catch the conversation and take it from there.

See also: 12 Reasons He’s Not Making The First Move

Let us know in the comments if these tips work for you!