10 Effective Tips to Stop Him From Cheating

When it comes to relationships, every man is unique. Some men may cheat regardless of what you do. Others may stray because they feel something is lacking in the relationship.

Some may cheat to add excitement to their lives, while others might do it to boost their own ego.

If you suspect your man is cheating, don’t panic. There are strategies you can try to make him see you differently and reduce the likelihood of ongoing infidelity.

Let’s look at 10 tested and proven tips for stopping him from cheating. Warning: these tips may not work for every guy. However, they’re worth a shot if you’re committed to keeping your relationship strong.

Tip #1. Let him know you’re not blind

If you found out he cheated, start by dropping subtle hints that you’re aware. You don’t have to confront him directly.

Just casually mention things that hint you know, like a detail of his schedule, a TV show plot about cheating, or an article on trust after betrayal.

This will show him you’re not blind to what’s happening, and willmake him wonder how much you know and what you’re up to next.

Tip #2. Have a single cold heart-to-heart

Have one, straightforward conversation with him. Keep your tone calm but firm. Tell him how much his actions have hurt you. Explain that you deserve better treatment and that his cheating has caused you deep pain.

Avoid shouting or getting overly emotional, maintain a composed attitude. Clearly communicate your expectations for trust and loyalty in a relationship.

Then leave the room, and don’t mention the topic again.

Tip #3: keep your detective work stealthy

Even if you’re tempted to investigate, resist the urge to let him catch you snooping around. Keep your investigative efforts discreet and covert.

Check his phone or social media accounts when he’s not around, and avoid leaving any traces of your snooping.

If he suspects you’re monitoring his actions, he’ll become more cautious and find ways to cover his tracks better.

More importantly though, if he knows you’re investigating, It will also reduce your ability to gain the upper hand in the relationship (keep reading).

Tip #4: Create emotional distance

Try becoming more distant. Keep some things to yourself and don’t share as much as you used to. Act a bit more reserved and distant when you’re together.

Instead of sharing your thoughts and feelings like before, try to keep things more surface-level. Don’t completely shut him out, but avoid confiding in him about personal matters. Like you trust him less.

This will make him notice a change in your behavior and wonder what’s up. Creating some mystery and distance will make him realize things aren’t the same as before.

By showing you’re not as invested, you’ll possibly make him think twice about cheating again. It will keep him guessing and concerned about your behavior, and possibly reduce his interest in looking elsewhere.

Tip #5: make him feel your disappointment

Let him sense you’re really let down by what he did, not just because he hurt your feelings, but because you believed he was better than that.

Let your feelings show subtly without saying it straight. For instance, if you usually laugh and talk a lot with him, try being a bit quieter. Or, if you often ask him about his day, you might do this less.

This will make him see that his behavior goes against the image you had of him as a great guy, appealing to his sense of self-worth. It might hit him harder than just focusing on the fact that he cheated.

Tip #6: Keep some mysteries

Work on being more independent and not sharing every little thing. Start doing things on your own or with friends, and don’t always include him in your plans or tell him all the details.

For example, if you go out for a coffee or a walk, just say you’re going out and leave it at that.

When he sees you’re happy doing your own thing and not telling him every detail, he may become more curious and interested in your life. He will feel you’re no longer reliant on him for your happiness.

This will hurt his hero instinct – read more about this here.

Tip #7: give hints that you might be busy elsewhere

To make him think twice about his actions, you can use small signs that suggest you might also be getting attention elsewhere.

It doesn’t mean you should actually cheat. Instead, be a bit vague about your plans or who you’re with.

For example, if you get a text message, smile and keep the details to yourself. Or, maybe start dressing up a bit more, even when you’re just going out with friends.

If he asks why you’re so dressed up, give a simple, “I just felt like it today.” These hints can make him wonder what you’re up to, and whether he might perhaps lose you down the road.

Tip #8: keep cool about other women

While you’re showing him you have your own life, and you start being more intriguing to him, make sure you don’t ask about other women.

Acting worried or jealous would ruin your effort, and everything you do will appear like just a scheme to get him back.

Just keep building your life, showing you’re confident and don’t need to chase him for answers. By not asking about other women, you show you are strong on your own.

You show you value yourself without needing to keep tabs on him. It makes you more appealing and it can make him think twice about losing your interest.

Tip #9: explore new social circles

Start joining new groups or trying out activities where you can meet new people. In addition to boosting your own social life, it gets him thinking.

If you’re out learning salsa dancing, joining a book club, or taking part in community events, he may start to wonder about who you’re meeting and what you’re doing.

He’ll see you’re capable of having fun and pursuing interests without him. That will trigger his curiosity and maybe even a bit of worry on his part. It can make him more eager to invest time and effort into your relationship.

Tip #10: listen like a buddy, not a partner

When he’s going through tough times, be there to listen and help out like a friend would. You can hear him out and give advice, but don’t be too cuddly or lovey-dovey.

Show you care about him and his problems, but you’re not just about the romantic stuff. He’ll see you as a strong person who supports him without needing to be super affectionate or clingy all the time.